I’ve always been like this, as long as I can remember.
I am a flibbertigibbet. A dillydallier. A loafer.
If I have something to do, something I really need to do, I put it off.
I had it beat a few years ago but it’s definitely a rut I can fall into if I’m not careful.
This August I find myself doing it again. I think it’s because I graduated my first homeschooled kid and my load feels lighter. It could be that we took the whole summer off enjoying days of empty schedules. Maybe it’s because I’ve been watching the Great British Bake Off and Marcella on Netflix. Perhaps it’s because I have been spending so much time planning a family trip to Ireland. I’m determined to stay in a cottage in Dingle. It may take us three years, but we’ll get there.
I feel so much better when I do what needs to be done in my life, but it’s so haaaaaaard to do it. I don’t know if it’s because I’m an ENFP or because I have ADD or what, but getting stuff done can be difficult for me.
Whenever I finally give in and start rolling with it, though, all is good. It’s all about taking that first step without focusing on perfection.
There are a couple of go-to’s for me when my brain is having a hard time helping me get done what I need to get done.
I love, love FlyLady. I borrowed her book, Sink Reflections, from Mom a number of years ago and felt like her no-nonsense approach to house cleaning was awesome. One of the phrases she often repeats is “Start where you’re at.” As the mom of young kids I needed to remember that. As a chronic procrastinator that was the most freeing thing I’d ever heard.
Now, I’m going to tell you it can be overwhelming. I can’t handle her e-mails, they just make me feel like a failure, and I already have 1,000+ in my inbox. FlyLady suggests you start here, and I do too. Just remember to do what works for you. For me, the Baby Steps and Control Journal were a game changer. I have a plan, and when I work the plan we stay on track with house cleaning. If we aren’t able to work the plan because of schedules or sickness I don’t freak out because the plan is there and I can get back to it.
Ours looks like this:
Mondays: bedroom day; Tuesdays: bathroom, hallway, stairs; Wednesdays: living room, dining room, back porch; Thursdays: kitchen and grocery shopping; Friday: basement, laundry room, car; Saturday: yard work; Sunday: house blessing.
This doesn’t mean that our house is perfectly clean; that’s not the goal. It just means I don’t freak out when people stop by unexpectedly or we have people over.
One of FlyLady’s principles is that you can do anything for 15 minutes which is nothing but the truth. This little revelation led to my next game changing discovery: The Pomodoro Technique.
This technique suggests setting a timer for 25 minutes and working really hard until it goes off. Then you get a 5 minutes break – better set that timer to 5. 🙂 For your break you can step outside for fresh air, do some quick exercises to get your blood pumping, organize a drawer, whatever floats your boat. Basically anything that puts your mind somewhere besides the task at hand. After 5 minutes you go back to your task for another 25. I never work on a task for more than three 25 minute segments.
This has revolutionized our homeschool life, especially for the subjects that my kids hate. Especially for the subjects that I hate. When you know that there is an end in sight, that you won’t be doing algebra for eternity, you can work harder knowing you’ll get a break. I never have the kids work for more than two 25 minute segments at a time. After their two 25 minute sessions they get a 25 minute break to do whatever they would like. They know that even if a task isn’t finished we will come back to it the next day.
My goal in homeschooling is not to finish a book but to teach a love of learning.
Again, this method isn’t perfect and doesn’t make everything in our homeschool go smooth as a Little House on the Prairie episode but it sure helps. As with anything new there is a learning curve to using this method. For Spencer I had to set the timer for 15 minutes at a time when he was younger, and that’s like what I’ll do for Liam ( who is 6) when he starts doing tasks on his own. We’ve worked up to 25 minutes now that Spencer is 12. I probably need to revisit this method with Laurel, who is 16, and pushes herself a little too hard for my taste. Those 5 minute breaks are important, but so are the 25 minute ones.
I tell my kids this all the time because it’s true: our brains need time to process information that we’re taking in. We need to be able to gaze at the sky and consider what we’ve read or watched on a video. I love Charlotte Mason and her theories on why small batches of really great information is much more effective than long (boring) periods of mediocre information.
My next step is to get a website blocker so that I cannot visit Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram until certain times of day. I’m looking at this one, called SelfControl. We shall see. In the hour I’ve been editing this post I’ve checked Twitter 42 times and opened up 5 other tabs. HELP!
Just writing this post has motivated to me to start where we are! I’m actually feeling excited about our day. I can do budgeting, meal planning, house cleaning, homeschooling, web surfing, etc., for 25 minutes at a time and get everything on my list, and then some, done.
Also, here are three blogs that I love for helping motivate me, great self care tips, and just general awesome information:
- The Art of Simple – Tsh Oxednrider and her writer friends are awesome.
- Goins, Writer – Jeff is super motivational for anyone pursuing a dream.
- The ADHD Nerd – Ryan has become is a new favorite. He’s real and helpful.