So, you’ve made the decision to homeschool this year.
Maybe you’ve only got a kindergartner, maybe you’ve decided to pull out your middle-school kid, maybe you decided at the end of the school year last year that you wanted to homeschool and now that THE TIME HAS COME you’re wondering if you lost your mind.
Take a deep breath, everything is going to be fine.
When I first started homeschooling 14 years ago (WHAT?!) I was like a deer in headlights. I so badly didn’t want to mess things up, and I only knew one other person who was homeschooling. Here’s a few things I wish someone had told me.
1. Advice is just opinion…
There is so much out there on the internet, in the library, and among friends on the subject of homeschooling. Don’t even get me started on what family can have to say on the subject. 😀
Really, though, it’s important to remember that no matter where you’re getting advice, from the beautifully bound book that cost a lot of money to the woman you run into at the library, it is simply someone else’s opinion on the matter of homeschooling. You’ve already got your own opinion on the issue or you wouldn’t be homeschooling.
Advice is not the gospel – you can take or leave it, and if you leave it you can always come back to it.
I’ve said it before and I’m certain to say it again: every homeschool is unique. What works for one may not work for another and that’s okay.
2. Your homeschool won’t look like the picture in your head..
I had Little House on the Prairie as the picture in my head, the t.v. series not the books. I imagined my students (a.k.a. my children) sitting at their individual desks just learning their little hearts out.
It didn’t look like that. I think they only kept snacks and toys in the desks that I scoured the city for.
Turns out, my kids liked to sit with me on the couch while I read aloud. They liked working puzzles and playing games at the kitchen table. They loved being able to explore in the back yard, going to the library, and visiting with friends at the playground.
Staying home, sitting at a desk, and being quiet; turns out those are NOT ways my kids (or any kid) learns.
So, take that picture in your head and tear it up. Have a white canvas, or better yet a dry erase board, in your imagination because there will be a lot of changes made in the course of your homeschool year. Or in the course of your homeschool day.
It’s just not going to look the way you thought it would. Also, this might be a good time to memorize Proverbs 16:9 if this is making you breathe funny.
3. Focus on what you get done in a day, not what you don’t…
Confession: I think I may have been more excited about getting a teacher’s planner than I was about starting to homeschool. I filled that sucker up, man! I spent a lot of time planning out kindergarten and preschool with colors for each child. I would admire all the stuff that we were going to get done in a week and then be utterly defeated when only half the list was accomplished. Suddenly my planner didn’t look like awesomeness but more like a mean lady wagging her finger at me saying, “You’ll miss recess for this!” in a mean lady voice.
A number of years ago my friend, Karen, shared with me her secret. She had a notebook for each of her children where she wrote their weekly assignments down. The kids chose when to get their work done, it just had to be done by Monday of the following week. Simple. So I said goodbye to expensive planners and hello to $1 notebooks.
Sometimes, though, even that is too hard for me. During moving transitions or times of sickness, or just utter overwhelmingness, sometimes things slip. It happens. Homeschoolers don’t have substitute teachers. Life continues on.
Recently, I read somewhere on the great Interwebs that you could just write down what you get done in day, that way you can feel good about what you’ve accomplished. I use a hodgepodge of curriculum, including Tapestry of Grace, and all of it has it planned out, so I just log our work, or the kids log their work, and it’s no big deal. I find that writing down what we’ve gotten done helps me see that we’re not ‘behind’.
In homeschool, there’s no such thing as behind.
Write that down on 15 sticky notes and put them all over the house. Write it on your hand, or your forehead. Write it on the kids bathroom mirror. I’m serious. It’s that important.
4. Plan on learning more than ever…
No one ever need worry that they aren’t capable of teaching their own child. No matter what your education level, income, or residence everyone is suited to educate their offspring. Thanks to the public library, internet, and homeschooling communities no subject is off limits to the homeschooler.
By far, my favorite aspect of home education is the joy of learning right alongside my kids.
We *typically have history/literature discussions every week, and there have been times that I realized my kids were staring at me as though I were a hydra because I was having an ‘Aha!’ moment out loud. It is so stinking exciting to share a light bulb moment with your kids. I think it’s also important for them to see that you don’t have to learn EVERYTHING before you graduate high school. So have those aha moments in big and bad ways!
There’s a ton more I could add to my list but I think these four are the essentials.
Homeschooling is an awesome opportunity to develop a unique family culture. Have fun and don’t take it too seriously.
It’s only school.
Be brave, misfits! Go learn some stuff!
I am passionate about education, especially home education. If you’re just starting out and you have questions, please feel free to ask me. Or if you’ve been at it for a while and need refreshing reach out here…people will pitch in.